OPINION – “Laugh as much as you breathe and love as much as you live.” I remember reading this statement by an unknown author just a few short years ago. I recall looking back at myself in the mirror and wondering what was next for me.

The truth is, I encountered some setbacks in my life as well as my business. It was as if I was driving down the road to success with nothing in sight, and then all of a sudden out of nowhere, a brick wall appeared and I hit it head on.

Some would suggest that looking back at the ghost of your past will end up haunting you forever. I wanted to see myself as a conqueror of my challenges because after all, I was still standing, breathing with life still in me. Instead, my thoughts were directed onto what I had lost with anger, resentment and sadness. I quickly found myself playing the victim role while so effortlessly blaming everyone for the crash of my own business.

Lashing out with rage on whoever would listen to me, my assumption that it was everyone else’s fault rather than my own led me to isolation, a “poor me” attitude, and suffering because at the end of it all, I couldn’t see my own truth. I had taken my setbacks far too serious and quite frankly I deserved to lose everything so I could grow spiritually and mentally.

I realize now that with every setback, with every defeat it builds a muscle I like to refer to as faith. Just like you cannot spell the word message without the word mess, or the word testimony without the word test, you can’t believe in the impossible if you haven’t survived the improbable.

It’s so easy for us as human beings to seek out beyond the worse when we encounter uncomfortable conditions. I would like to share with you what I shared with myself in the midst of my very own pity party. “We must embrace the process, so that we can attain the progress.”

If you lost your business, if you were down-sized on your job, if you’re 40 years old and living with your parents, if you stare at your college degree daily and can’t find a job — so what!?! Get over it! You are still breathing which means that your mission in life is not yet complete.

It may be time for you to pursue something that you have always wanted to pursue, or maybe it’s your time to get a pay raise at another company who can afford to pay you what you are worth. And the degree that is hanging on your wall could simply play the role as your reminder of how brilliant you are.

Looking at the glass as half full versus half empty could be your catalyst to getting everything your heart desires at this exact moment. Remember, when we focus solely on the negative outcomes in our lives, we then attract more of it. And when all else fails remember this,”Laugh as much as you breathe and love as much as you live.”

Be Bold. Be Great. Be You.
By Tiana Burse